Unconditional love means that you love someone, regardless of whether or not you agree with them, or they with you. It is based upon loving the person, their soul, not their words or actions. It means you love them even if you don't agree, or understand every nook and cranny they inhabit. You love them because you know them intimately, because you are blessed to have them in your life.
What that means to me is that you show concern for them, even asking them how they are doing on a somewhat regular basis. You love them because they are there for you to look them in the eye and pour your heart out to them, and they for you if the need arises. If it is all one sided, then it is not shared unconditional love, and to allow it to continue can make you feel as if you are being used.
We need to listen, really hear what our best friends, our loves are telling us, not shut them out when they don't say the things we wanted or expected to hear. There are ALWAYS two sides to every story, if not more. You cannot say that one side is correct and the other not, just because it wasn't what you expected to hear. And you certainly cannot base unconditional love on those things, because that, my friend, is not truely unconditional love.
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